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7 Steps To Start Living Your Dream

Intro

I’d like to start by saying that in no way do I have this completely sussed.  However, in the last year I have secured a permanent job which both supports me financially and leaves me enough time to pursue my dream.  I am also now a registered childminder which is my backup incase I lose my employed job for any reason, have started one new business and am about to opening my second. A year ago my life was very different and I had pretty much hit rock bottom, emotionally, mentally and financially. So, as I say, I am no expert, but I can do it I’m sure you can too.

Step 1- Improve your mindset

The most important thing that you can do in the beginning is to realise that you can live your dream if you are prepared to put aside every excuse you can think of, all the reasons you can’t and fully focus all your energy into making it happen despite your current circumstances.   For a high majority of people there is never a “right time” and it will be not easy, no one will hand it to you on a plate. I truly believe any goal is possible, just that higher the goal the more energy, determination and commitment it will require to achieve.

This is the step most people stop trying at. They will tell themselves a multitude of things that make them believe their dream is impossible. Statements such as (not an extensive list):

  • I don’t have the time.
  • I do not have enough money.
  • If only I was younger/healthier.
  • I do not have the skills I need.
  • If only I lived nearer to (a person, place etc) that would make this possible.

Does sounds like you? If it does, no problem, this post should help you realise your dream really is possible. All you have to do (and this sounds far more simple than it is) is to either say yet at the end of any statement that starts “I do not”. Nothing in life is constant; we are in a state of constant change. Any statement that starts “If only” leads to two questions, why can’t I and why do I need to be. There are always alternative solutions, finding them and putting them into place is the only way to move forwards.

Now I going to go back on this slightly.  Your dream needs to be something that is both humanly possible and within your talent capability (at least be able to learn to the level needed). For example if your dream is to go and live on the sun then clearly, at least during our lifetime, this is a completely impossible dream. Equally, if aged 50, having only played football as a hobby then decide you want to play for England, then again, realistically not going to happen!!!

A way around this though would be to modify your dream so that it is still a dream, however more realistic. For example could you learn to coach children? Your dream could therefore be to inspire children to play sport professionally, maybe one of them to go on to play for their country in the future.

Step 2- Get to know your dream a bit better

Visualise your dream, know it, live with the idea. This way you will know your dream, understand it, work out exactly what it is you wish to achieve.

Without this step it’s like you have a title but no content. Your dream is unique to you. You need to really understand your dream for yourself, it’s you that needs to create it so you need to know what to create.

The great thing about this step is once you believe it and can see it (at least in your mind) you can start to feel excited and inspired. This is the place I come back to each and every time I feel like it’s all too much and have no idea how to move forwards. It’s the single most motivating thing you can do.

Be brave, tell others your dream. Obviously be careful not to say so much that someone else steals your ideas, but enough so that you have said it out load. This helps to concrete the idea.   When your dream does come true then others will know about it anyway. Not everyone will be completely positive and not all will support you, however many will and you are not asking for their permission (or even their support) you are only sharing your thoughts.

Step 3- Get organised

Now you believe you can live your dream and you have a vision of how it will look it’s time to put all that down on paper.

Create two sheets.   First one is your vision. In any form you wish whether a list, spider diagram, pictures and photos or a combination (I recommend making it pleasing to look at but other than that in the form you want to, again it’s your vision, you need to work with it no one else). The second is a list of issues to overcome to enable you to live your dream. This makes you break each obstacle down into more manageable chunks.

Step 4 – Research

Now is time to research. With the internet these days it’s possible to find out pretty much all you need to know. Go through all the things you think you need. If you know you need to find money then find out how much you actually do need, don’t assume. If you need certain skills find out how you could acquire them.

Please remember though that everyone ‘s experience is different.  When looking on the internet to find figures try to get a general idea from a few different places.  Your situation will not be the same as their’s so don’t assume their costs will be the same as yours.

Step 5 – Make a plan

Now you have a list of obstacles and you have researched how big they are you can start to tackle them. Tackle just one at a time- break it down into smaller parts if needed. It’s always better to achieve 1 tiny goal than to achieve nothing as it was all way too overwhelming.

Most people will have the obstacle of money so I will start by addressing this. In the last step I wrote about research and finding out exactly how much is needed. Costs should also be itemised so you can look at how much you need for what. So, for example you need £1000 to get started and £40 of this is for an online course. Finding £40 for something is a lot less intimidating than finding £1000 isn’t it? Added benefit in this is that you also remove the obstacle of not having one of the skills needed. So how do you find £40?

This I understand may well be still a lot of money to you.   However, this could be £10 a month saved over 4 months or sell something you no longer need. Most people can find some bits if they look through drawers and cupboards. Is there a non-essential you can cut down on or give up? Look at your current monthly spend, are there any savings to be made there? Are you paying too much for utilities or a membership you have forgotten to cancel but never use?

Lack of time is another thing that a lot of people allow to stop them.   Time can be treated much like money, break all the tasks down into bitesize pieces. A little extra time can be found in anyone’s lifestyle, get up 10 min earlier, skip watching a TV program, spend 10 min less doing your hobby each day. Get organised- do you waste time? Again just a few mins a day soon adds up, 10 min over 6 days is a hour, an hour more you spent on you dream before you found that extra 10 min. In 1 month that’s an extra 5 hours you have created.

Now yes I am suggesting you change things in your life, you give things up and you make sacrifices, but only if you want to live your dream. It’s totally up to you, no one other than you can make this work. Remember with each penny you put aside, each minute you find and each obstacle you learn how to overcome you make another positive step in the direction of your dream.

Now on to the “if onlys” this makes me think of the quote:

Apply this to your” if only” type statements and you will see what needs to happen. So for example “If only I was younger” you cannot make yourself younger, but why is your age stopping you? If it’s because you wish to enter a completion for under 18yr olds and you are 30 then sorry you have just realised your dream is not humanly possible.  It needs to be moderated to accommodate this- can you find a competition for your age group? Maybe you are not the only one, you could look into starting your own.   If it’s because you think that your dream will just be harder due to your age as most are younger then counter that argument in your head with what you have that’s better than the younger age group, experience? Maybe you are more level headed?

So basically the questions you need to answer for each “if only” are: Can I change it? Do I need to change It? What are the alternative solutions?

Step 6 – Get to work

This is where the real hard work starts, hopefully by now you really believe your dream is possible.  You have now taken the first steps to making it a reality.

You now have a clear list of manageable tasks to take on. At times completing one task will automatically lead onto making another easier to achieve.  There will also be times where additional obstacles will present themselves. When this does happen- and it will, that these obstacles were there all along it’s just that you didn’t see them.  Your dream is not any further away than it was before this latest obstacle showed itself.

Personally I try to look at each obstacle as a learning opportunity. Each and every time you overcome an obstacle you gain some knowledge that you will be able to use at some time in the future. It will also boost your confidence in your ability to combat further obstacles down the line.

A great example of this is when I was setting up Rafaelle, before it went live. I had absolutely no previous experience in building a website.  However, I had to teach myself as I did not have the money to pay anyone else to build it.   One day I was working on it (I had spent many, many hours working on it up to this point) and it “broke”.   I could no longer access my product pages or a couple of other pages and showed error messages that made absolutely no sense to me.

My first reaction was to panic- I was close to tears and had zero idea what to do. I was scared that if I tried to fix it I would break it further and I thought I had lost weeks of work and even if I started again what would stop this from happening again?

I stopped, took a deep breath and went over in my head what I had done in the previous 15 min before I noticed I could get into certain sections. Suddenly I realised I had updated a lot of my plugins en-masse. But now what? What do I do if this is the cause of the problem?  Even though I now had a good idea what the cause of this issue is I still have no idea how or even if it can be fixed. Again, took another deep breath and went through every YouTube video and article I could find online about this- mostly only understanding about 50% of what was said in any of them at best.

So decided to take a bit of a leap of faith.  I deactivated each of the plugins one at a time then test if the issue was fixed.  I had no guarantee that this would not further break my site,  but  did not having a better option. After what felt like forever, but in reality was probably a few minutes, I found the offending plugin.  I decided I could live without it and deleted it permanently, reactivated the rest and my site was fixed!!

From this I have now learnt to update plugins one at a time.  If there was a repeat I now know how to quickly and easily fix it. I am grateful for this all happening before the Rafaelle became live.  I am also grateful to have learnt how to deal with this issue if it occurs in the future.  It also gave me a big boost in confidence in my ability to deal with issues on my website.

Step 7 –Don’t Stop

All that is required now is for you to keep going, putting one foot in front of the other.  Whenever you feel like giving up take a look at your vision sheet you created in step 3. Sometimes it’s hard to stay motivated.  It can be easy to think you haven’t moved forwards when you take tiny steps.  Keeping a progress diary can really help with this.  The diary encourages you to record what you have achieved each day, you can look back and see how far you have come.

Sounds simple doesn’t it- it’s not, it will take time, perseverance, strong will, tears, tantrums and a mega amount of determination- you just need to decide whether or not your dream is worth it. It can be a lonely experience at times.  You will have many ups and downs, however the ups are massive and totally wipe the all the negatives into oblivion!!

Conclusion

In all of this I haven’t said what my dream is. It’s to start a spiritual centre where people can come to for healing and to learn about and experience the many different forms of mediumship. For mediums to have the opportunity to both demonstrate and develop there. A holistic shop and reference library for the public to access. A place experts in consciousness and afterlife studies can share their knowledge and findings with interested parties and a scheme in place to assist with the funding of further research.

I have a long way to go before my dream is realised, but I know it will be. My obstacles are varied and at times extremely challenging, I am pretty much never in my comfort zone anymore and am constantly thinking about 10 steps ahead. I live my dream (and actually dream it too quite a bit)!! I do have times when I want a “normal” life and if I gave up on my dream my life would actually be quite easy these days, but where would be the fun in that!!

One of my first steps was to create myself an income.  This would need to support me and if possible enable me to make connections with similar minded people. My solution was to start an online business selling healing crystals.  So in August 2018 Rafaelle was opened, please check it out and let me know what you think.

I would wish you luck, but sadly luck will only get you so far. Instead I send you all a boost of passion, inspiration and self-belief, these will get you through the toughest times.

I hope this post has inspired you to take those first few steps towards your dream, whatever that may be. Please share how you are getting on in the comments section; I would love to hear from you.

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Cleansing and Charging Crystals for Optimum Performance

Introduction

When I first sat down to write this I knew exactly what I wanted to do; I wished to create a very simple guide to cleansing and charging crystals. My aim was to make it so that even an absolute beginner could follow without confusion. Rafaelle is all about making the healing properties of crystals accessible to all. With that thought in mind, here I go.

Reasons For Cleansing and Charging Crystals

A selection of various crystals

Firstly we are talking about an energetic cleanse rather than a physical one.

A crystal it is far from being new even if you have just bought or received it. The crystal has travelled a long way, through the hands of many different people and been stored in many different locations. Crystals absorb the energy from their surroundings and from people, cleansing removes these and brings the crystal back to an energetic clean slate.

Crystals should then be cleansed on a regular basis, how often is down to how they are used.  The negative energies of pain whilst being used for healing and/or the patient not being in a great state of mind will be collected by the crystal therefore it will require cleansing. If you find a crystal seems less effective than normal this is a sign that the crystal needs to be cleansed.

Over time crystals will weaken and lose their energy.  When they were in the ground they were able to charge themselves using the earth’s energies, once mined they lose this ability.  Once cleansed, crystals should be charged to return them to their natural energetic state.

Cleansing Methods

The first method normally recommended is to cleanse using water, I’m going to start here by being slightly controversial and say that I highly suggest you avoid this method unless you really know what you are doing. The reason being is that although one of the simplest, most accessible methods many crystals available these days can be damaged by water. Some crystals can have their surfaces ruined, some much worse, they can be disolved. Unless you know for definite that the crystal you wish to cleanse is ok in water then it’s really not worth the risk, especially when there are other methods available that work just as well. Also if you have several different crystals then it makes much more sense to use the same method to cleanse all your crystals.

There are also a couple of other common methods I have left out due to the issues with some crystals and water. The burying method, normally soil contains water and brown rice can leave a residue which needs to be washed off.

When deciding on which of the following methods I would recommend using the method you are most drawn to.

Sunlight

Sun shining from behind a flower. Sunlight is great for both cleansing and charging crystals.

Cleansing and charging crystals with sunlight is by far and away the most simple, easiest and cheapest method. 30-60 minutes on a sunny windowsill will fully cleanse and charge a crystal. This amount of time is more than enough time to complete the process. Make sure the sun’s rays will not be focused onto something flammable and start a fire!!  Some crystals may fade in the sun if left out too long. WARNING: Extreme heat will damage crystals.  In hot countries (or during heat waves) do not put them out during the hottest parts of the day.  Crystals can be put out in the early morning or evening if it is very hot during the day.

 

Smudging

A lit sage smudge stick producing cleansing smoke.

Smudging is the act of burning certain plants/herbs to create a cleansing smoke, it is a Native American custom. Sage purifies and drives away negative energies so is great to cleanse crystals with. Sage smudge sticks are relatively easy to come by (either online or in holistic shops). To cleanse crystals using this method just waft smoke from the burning smudge stick around the crystals for a couple of minutes with the clear intention of cleansing them. WARNING: Do not use this method if you have respiratory problems, are pregnant or think you may be.

 

Reiki

Two hands representing the giving of reiki. Reiki is great for both cleansing and charging crystals.

Cleansing and charging crystals with reiki is very simple.  Anyone attuned to at least reiki level 1 can do this.  Just hold the crystal in your hands with the intention of cleansing and charging it.  Once attuned to level 2 it is then possible to cleanse and charge crystals with reiki symbols.  Cleansing crystals with reiki will also charge them so if you are attuned to reiki this is a great method to use.

Incense

A burning incense stick

In a similar way to smudging incense can also be used. Either cedarwood or sandalwood incense sticks are great, just light and when producing smoke hold the crystal over it for a couple of minutes. WARNING: Do not use this method if you have respiratory problems, are pregnant or think you may be.

Methods to Charge Crystals

If you use a method other than sunlight or reiki to cleanse your crystals then you will now need to charge them.  Of course you could use sunlight or reiki to charge after using a different method to cleanse if that suits you.

Using Another Crystal

A large piece of quartz crystal

A large crystal cluster with a naturally high vibration such as clear quartz or selenite can be used to charge crystals.  Crystals can also be charged using geodes.  Just place the crystals either on the large crystal or in the geode for a few hours and they will be charged.

Moonlight

A photo of a full moon.

Moonlight is a funny one, some people swear by it where as others will tell you it does not work.  I would say to use moonlight if you feel drawn to it and leave it if not.  If you wish to charge your crystals with moonlight leave them on a windowsill on a clear night.  I would advise against leaving them outside overnight in case it rains on them.

Conclusion

If you are attuned to reiki then using reiki  is probably the best method for you.  You can cleanse and charge crystals with reiki whenever you wish.  Sunlight is a great method, it’s free and anyone can use it.  Cleansing and charging crystals can all be done in one go if you have lots making it much more convenient.  I personally find that the less complicated you make something than the better you will be at doing it regularly.

Saying this my own 7yr old daughter decided the other day that she absolutely needed a piece of emerald.  I felt I needed to give it an extra cleanse so smudged it with sage before placing it in the sun for 30 min.  Ultimately you will know what to do, trust yourself and your own intuition.

I hope this guide has helped you understand the basics of cleansing and charging crystals.  Please leave comments to share your own practises and experiences.  I will also do my best to answer any questions you may have.

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